“If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross and follow Me. For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it; but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it” (Matthew 16:24-25).
Remember the game of checkers? Two opponents sit down across from each other and try to move their checkers forward on the board. At the same time you are endeavoring to remove their checkers. But the crowning moment comes when you are able to get your checker all the way over to your opponents side and say, “Crown me.” They place a checker on top of your checker. Now you have the opportunity to move your crowned checker forward and backward. You now have an advantage.
Every son and daughter desires to hear confirmation from their father. They desire for you to crown him/her. They will not say the words out loud because in many ways they don’t know it themselves. But they desire to say to you, “King Me!” There are no fathers perfect and there are no perfect prescriptions out there. Only the Holy Spirit and God’s Word can lead a father to be a man who “Kings his children.”
One day we are going to be off the scene and a good father will prepare his son/daughter to take over. It’s our job to get them ready for God and to groom them for this life. That’s what fathering is all about. It’s mentoring and equipping your son/daughter to become a man/woman who will assume their places for the next generation. We have no higher calling in life. It’s our God-given assignment.
Andre Gide said, “The most decisive actions of our lives–I mean those that are most likely to decide the whole course of our future–are, more often than not, unconsidered.” Think that statement through.