Truth Spoken In Love

“And I have declared unto them thy name, and will declare it, that the love with which thou has loved me may be in them, and I in them”
(John 17:26).

People are looking for truth. They’re looking for reality. Deal with people in truth, and you will deal with reality.

Speaking the truth isn’t even enough, though. Truth must be spoken in love.

Many people think they are doing right by being very outspoken. Then, they put a veneer of respectability on what they say by commenting, “Well, I believe in telling the truth. You will always know what I think.” That is wrong, as well; for the child of God endeavors to balance that which “God says and what He says and how He says it”, in love.

God’s people are to much like a see-saw. Unbalanced, too top-heavy, no real leverage, prideful, and liking it with a sneer. If the peace of God does not rule, He is not ruling in that person’s heart. God balances the see-saw with a fulcrum of truth and love.

Truth balanced with love is Jesus on the cross praying, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do” (Luke 23:33). “Forgive them” is love; “for they know not what they do” is truth. Mercy and peace kiss at the cross.

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